Definitely wrong
Sunday morning, November 4 2007, 6am. I woke up and had this feeling that I was not going to go to church. I went back to sleep.
I woke up to hear my name is screamed. “What?”. “The landlord wants to see you”. “Not again? My generator is bad, so it can’t be that. My dogs did not make noise through out the night (or maybe they did). What could it be?”. Don’t blame me, this man only complains. He lives for it. And yes, I was right, it was a complaint. This time it was with regards to the water tank.
I heard some whispers, someone had died. My neighbours wife died over the night. He was called by his in-laws around some minutes past 12. She had been sick for months. Could not go to church.
Around 1pm, the burial was done (I did not attend). Around 3pm, her folks came to pack her belongings <- this is what I have issues with. The lady is dead barely 15 hours and the family were already fighting over her property.
A statement made included “we do not want another woman to use her property”. Oh stuff it somewhere the sun don’t shine. The head of the “mob” was her immediate younger brother who was living with them uptill a while ago. I am on this man’s side even if he is wrong (though I do not see how). The lady had some expensive things, agreed, but she was not working. Meaning that this same man was the buying this things for her, yet her family would insult him over them.
The marriage is less than 2 years and they had no kids.
I have seen things that I do not understand.
Many folks are saying the guy should skip the mourning and go ahead with looking for a new wife. What is your view?
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For a while, the guy and his late wife had been disconnected, considering that he did not know where she during her last 3 weeks on earth.
In June, I lost 2 people (a friend and an in-law), so I can say I kinda know how the man feels yet I’ll advise him to hasten the mourning process
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I find myself wondering if those who suggest this guy “skip the mourning” have ever lost someone they truly loved. Because if he had any actual feelings for his departed wife, just running out looking for a “replacement model” (which is what it sounds like some people are suggesting) is a big mistake, both for his own health and any hope of said new marriage having any real future.
Mourning and grieving are about processing through loss, and if what you’ve lost is of any value to you at all, it’s important to honor that process. Otherwise, you find yourself stuck.
And I totally agree with you about the vultures in the woman’s family. I saw similar behavior amongst some of my aunts and uncles after my grandfather passed away a few years. At least they had the decency to wait until after the funeral (which was three days after his death). But even then, it struck me as completely disgusting. And the fact that this woman’s husband (who in my view is the rightful inheritor of all she had unless she specifically stipulated otherwise) is still alive makes it all the much more horrid.