Comments on: Definitely wrong http://9jasite.com/2007/11/05/definitely-wrong/ think with a head, love with a heart and hate with a passion. Fri, 12 Mar 2010 20:32:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: HeavyGod http://9jasite.com/2007/11/05/definitely-wrong/comment-page-1/#comment-62 HeavyGod Tue, 27 Nov 2007 09:19:43 +0000 http://9jasite.com/2007/11/05/definitely-wrong/#comment-62 Really good and really interesting post. I expect (and other readers maybe :)) new useful posts from you! Good luck and successes in blogging! Really good and really interesting post. I expect (and other readers maybe :) ) new useful posts from you!
Good luck and successes in blogging!

]]> By: Oladipo MD http://9jasite.com/2007/11/05/definitely-wrong/comment-page-1/#comment-45 Oladipo MD Mon, 12 Nov 2007 09:05:02 +0000 http://9jasite.com/2007/11/05/definitely-wrong/#comment-45 For a while, the guy and his late wife had been disconnected, considering that he did not know where she during her last 3 weeks on earth. In June, I lost 2 people (a friend and an in-law), so I can say I kinda know how the man feels yet I'll advise him to hasten the mourning process For a while, the guy and his late wife had been disconnected, considering that he did not know where she during her last 3 weeks on earth.

In June, I lost 2 people (a friend and an in-law), so I can say I kinda know how the man feels yet I’ll advise him to hasten the mourning process

]]> By: Jarred http://9jasite.com/2007/11/05/definitely-wrong/comment-page-1/#comment-43 Jarred Sun, 11 Nov 2007 22:18:16 +0000 http://9jasite.com/2007/11/05/definitely-wrong/#comment-43 I find myself wondering if those who suggest this guy "skip the mourning" have ever lost someone they truly loved. Because if he had any actual feelings for his departed wife, just running out looking for a "replacement model" (which is what it sounds like some people are suggesting) is a big mistake, both for his own health and any hope of said new marriage having any real future. Mourning and grieving are about processing through loss, and if what you've lost is of any value to you at all, it's important to honor that process. Otherwise, you find yourself stuck. And I totally agree with you about the vultures in the woman's family. I saw similar behavior amongst some of my aunts and uncles after my grandfather passed away a few years. At least they had the decency to wait until after the funeral (which was three days after his death). But even then, it struck me as completely disgusting. And the fact that this woman's husband (who in my view is the rightful inheritor of all she had unless she specifically stipulated otherwise) is still alive makes it all the much more horrid. I find myself wondering if those who suggest this guy “skip the mourning” have ever lost someone they truly loved. Because if he had any actual feelings for his departed wife, just running out looking for a “replacement model” (which is what it sounds like some people are suggesting) is a big mistake, both for his own health and any hope of said new marriage having any real future.

Mourning and grieving are about processing through loss, and if what you’ve lost is of any value to you at all, it’s important to honor that process. Otherwise, you find yourself stuck.

And I totally agree with you about the vultures in the woman’s family. I saw similar behavior amongst some of my aunts and uncles after my grandfather passed away a few years. At least they had the decency to wait until after the funeral (which was three days after his death). But even then, it struck me as completely disgusting. And the fact that this woman’s husband (who in my view is the rightful inheritor of all she had unless she specifically stipulated otherwise) is still alive makes it all the much more horrid.

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